Say my name, say my name.. you acting kinda shady, ain’t calling me baby.. why the sudden change?
Destiny Child’s hit single..Say my name. What’s in a name??????? Saying someone’s name when you are greeting the person, is normal. Saying someone’s name while you are in conversation with them, or after you’ve already said your greetings, is a sign of intimacy. Saying a shortened version of that person’s name or a special version, is an even greater sign of intimacy. If you say “Hey Sharin how’s it going?”, that’s normal. If in conversation you say, “Sharin.. I don’t know.. I’m just… I’m not really sure what to do Sharin… I need some help deciding”.. it’s not REALLYYY normal. Normal would be “I’m not really sure what to do man/yo/dude” or “Hey.. I’m not really sure what to do.”. Saying “Shar.. I don’t know.. I’m just… I’m not really sure what to do Shar?”etc etc IS EVEN MORE INTIMATE. I’m not crazy! It’s true.
N what if you’re having physical relations with someone???? The only reason someone would say your name in the middle of a physical moment if they normally DON’T do that is because: a.) they’re reminding themselves who they’re with and quite possibly but not necessarily relishing the difference OR b.) they’re trying to get into it because they’re not. Into it, that is. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. Trust me.
It’s true…saying someone’s name other than in your initial greeting is a sign of intimacy … so much so that it is often used in sales tactics for that particular reason. It’s a sign of closeness, friendship, and just by saying it, it forms a bond with that person. Who knew a name was so personal?.. yes it’s your name but it’s meant for other people to use right??? I don’t know, I just feel weird when people know my name or speak it when they don’t really know me and just see it on a nametag. What’s in a name? A name.. or how someone says it, can tell you a lot. If someone uses a person’s name more in conversation say or to call them or to tell them something (other than when they used it in the initial contact) rather than saying a generic term like “hey” “yo” or just avoiding using a noun… I duno it’s weird.
Long story short.. if you don’t know me well.. don’t keep dropping my name in conversation unless you think I’m into you… you’ll freak me out. N if you want to hide intimacy with someone.. refrain from saying their name, especially a mod vers. Ppl notice. If you want to enforce a bond and strengthen it… say it like she’s Beyonce singing the instructions to you… say her goddamn name!
