C'est La Vie

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
― Maya Angelou

People will never forget how you made them feel.  This is what I want to do in life… I want to make people feel.  I want to be able to make as many people feel as I can.  If I can make someone feel something, then I have distracted them in that one moment from whatever is going on in their life and that one moment of their life is a gift to me… it would be mine and weaved into my tapestry, into my story and would connect me with them. 

I want to take your breath away, I want to make you laugh, I want to make you cry, I want to remind you of someone important in your life.  I want that one moment from you.

This is why I want to be an actor (and this is why since I’m not an actor right now – I write!). 

I’m jealous of Oprah!  Not because of the money (although I wouldn’t say no to a billion dollars…actually maybe I would… too much friggin money)… but because her job allowed her to make other people feel, every single day (and this is why I love Shah Rukh Khan…although mine and his story/love affair is a long story).  I’m jealous of Oprah because everyday when she was standing on her show she knew that that was exactly where she was supposed to be.  Not a lot of people can say that.  That’s a blessing. 

Have you ever watched the musical Burlesque?  In it, Christina Aguilera's character leaves her small town when she realizes that there is literally no one else in that town who’s life she would want.  There was no one there who inspired her enough to make her want to stay.  This is kind of how I feel about Vancouver.  There is NO ONE here whose life I would want, there is no one here, no career position that has inspired me enough to want to stay here and there is no position or job that I could create even to fulfill what I want.  I know what I want, and it’s just not here.  The only thing keeping me in Vancouver right now is my family – I can’t even say my friends because I know I would meet my friends if I moved anywhere else in the world but I can’t just pick up and relocate my family.

I’ve lived in Vancouver for over 15 years now and there came a point where I was overseas and was boarding my flight to come home to YVR and I was just like… what is the point?  What do I have there?  That moment was terrifying to me – that I could have lived somewhere for over a decade and feel that besides my family I have nothing really physically keeping me there.  It was… terrifying, sad, humbling.  It was kind of my “Eat pray love” moment except I couldn’t sell off all my things like her and travel the world with a book deal waiting for me because I have a FAMILY and I have RESPONSIBILITIES… but how I wish I could have!!

Living an uninspired life is a fate worse than death.  I hope I get to fulfill my dreams and I hope you do too!!!  Goodnight everyone.

There are some teachers who truly guide you and influence your life.  Mrs. Hillman was an amazing teacher, I had her as a teacher for two years.. for English 9 and English 10 Challenge/Advanced or whatever it was called (which turned out to be way easier than regular English haha seriously the BEST CLASS I’ve ever had… )

I was never a very memorable kid in school.  I was never the favoured teacher’s pet.  I’ve mentioned before on this blog I think… I was a pretty quiet, shy person for most of elementary and into junior high and I guess you could say I never really bloomed – late bloomer if you will.  Mrs. Hillman was the only teacher who ever actually bothered…she pushed me, cared, and encouraged me to pursue my dreams and saw something in me.  I know that she made countless other students feel the same way and that is why she was truly special.

I remember having some seriously intense conversations with her after school about life and books.  She treated you like an adult and not like an idiot junior high kid.  I remember I called her home phone number one day :$ lol yes I was clearly a weirdo but it was like before the days you could Facebook and email your teacher lol I had some kind of emergency or something…Anywho…  I remember how she told me after class that she was sticking me with this one person who rubbed everyone the wrong way because I was the only person who could control him lol, I remember dissecting books I had read that weren’t in our curriculum with her, she was even one of my references for job applications.  I actually still remember the comments that she gave me on my presentations, my writing (I still have my notes and her comments) and how she scarily knew what I was thinking/my personality.  Sometimes in elementary and junior high I used to think some of my teachers were dumb (like actually stupid I swear to you) and I knew that she knew what she was talking about and I really respected her.  English - reading and writing - was seriously the only thing I was good at and no one ever really gave me any compliments back in the day so her compliments to me and her comments always stuck with me and I truly valued them. 

Thank you Mrs Hillman for being the best teacher ever and you will be missed!! 

K so I HAVEN’T DANCED IN FOREVER!  It’s been um… a year maybe.  Dancing is my THANG.. I’ve been dancing since I was a little girl – mainly Bollywood stuff – copying my older sister who was copying Madhuri…so you could say I indirectly learnt from the great Madhuri Dixit herself haha.. then of course Aishwarya came along and whooo hooo I just kept on learning their songs and the only song of Hrithik’s that I learnt was Ek Pal Ka Jeena because every song after that he just… became a Prabhu Deva duplicate and that’s just way out of my league.

SO ANYWAY – I haven’t danced in forever.  Been too busy, been too…down and out.  I haven’t been able to attend my friend Shai’s classes as my schedule is just wack so I am doing it the old school way and going to learn some routines off the internet (Youtube is my friend).  I HOPE to post some videos up of me dancing soonish…like within the month hopefully!  If you haven’t already checked out my youtube page it’s http://www.youtube.com/user/queensharin#g/u

Ntn crazy, feel free to subscribe lol.  So the reason why I want to upload vids of me dancing is 1.) because it’ll be fun and 2.) I like to perform – dancing in my room and learning routines off of youtube videos is cool and all but I’ll probably put more effort into it if I know that people are watching me!  So just an fyi – I suck at choreography and I’m not the best dancer – I just like to do it…so everything I post will be like my attempt at someone else’s routine.

THE REASON WHY I TITLED THIS BLOG POST WHOA THEY’RE HOT:

They’re really quite good.. and I like that they actually have some MEAT on them:

I think belly dancers should have something to shake – there’s a famous belly dancer named Didem (youtube her) and she’s reallyyy good as well and hot as eff but I don’t quite enjoy it as much because she’s got this model thin body.  It’s great for bikini photoshoots but not so great for sensual belly dancing. 

Watchu think?  Fab or EW FLAB?

Why is it that death allows people to see someone for their true potential and WORTH?!?!?  It should start before someone dies!!

I’m sick of “kids” or young people in general being so cruel to other kids.  There are enough illnesses and accidents happening in the world without a parent needing their child to die because of a bully or out of jealousy.

It shouldn’t take DEATH for people to bond together.  We should ALWAYS be there as a community for each other, we should ALWAYS respect and recognize the potential and worth someone else has.  We should ALWAYS encourage each other and HELP each other.

I’m SICK of people talking sh*t behind people’s back, posting hate comments anonymously or posting stuff on websites about how people are “sluts”, “whores”, etc etc.

Murder is extreme, you completely take away someone’s life…like it’s WORTHLESS… but bullying and hating each other is the first step in throwing away someone’s worth!!!!!!!!!!! 

I’m disgusted at what my community has become.  ((By my community I mean people my age (all ethnicities)as well as Punjabi people from Vancouver/Surrey, and women))

All I know is that a majority of people who comment on how worthy someone was of living (after they have died) would probably have hated on that same person had they continued to live.  Think about it.  You know it’s true.

I’ve had so many friends who are simply trying to live their lives and try and make something of themselves and follow their dreams come up to me and tell me about all of these people who are hating on them and bringing them down.  If you’re from an ethnic minority, or you’re a WOMAN (which is a rare thing for some countries nowadays) please think twice before hating on someone else.  We get hated on enough as it is from the world… please don’t do it to each other.

Value human life, value each other, support each other, stop adding hits to stupid websites that serve no purpose other than to degrade and humiliate people, and just BE A BETTER PERSON!!!!

Just remember, you should ALWAYS defend someone who isn’t there to defend themselves!

"One afternoon, Nasruddin and his friend were sitting in a cafe, drinking tea and talking about life and love.  His friend asked: 'How come you never married?'

'Well,' said Nasruddin, 'to tell you the truth, I spend my youth looking for the perfect woman. In Cairo I met a beautiful and intelligent woman, but she was unkind. Then in Baghdad, I met a woman who was a wonderful and generous soul, but we had no common interests. One woman after another would seem just right, but there would always be something missing. Then one day, I met her; beautiful, intelligent, generous and kind. We had very much in common. In fact, she was perfect!'

'So, what happened?' asked Nasruddin's friend, 'Why didn't you marry her?'

Nasruddin sipped his tea reflectively. 'Well,' he replied, 'it's really the sad story of my life.... It seemed that she was looking for the perfect man...' "

***********

I’ve always loved this tale.  I feel like a lot of people nowadays are always looking for the next best thing and they hold out waiting for it, or once they’ve gotten something they are never totally satisfied.

They have an ipad, but they want the ipad 2, they don’t even bother getting the iphone 4 because they’re waiting for the iphone 5.  You get the picture.

I hope this tale above won’t be mine :|  In some ways I am very, very loyal – I had the same mp3 player for over 5 years, I’ve had the same dinky camera since 2006 (even though I work at one of the leading electronics retailers)… So I’m pretty loyal, but yeah it’s def a big problem in today’s society where we’re so used to instant gratification and always getting the newer model.  I guess that’s why there’s so much cheating (adultery) in this world - - - it’s for the same reason that we’re all in so much debt  - Instant gratification/never thinking about the future.

If someone TELLS you that they talk to me all the time via bbm, facebook, twitter, whatever – IT IS A LIE.  People who I ACTUALLY talk to do not need to go around telling other people that they are super tight with me/talk to me all the time because people who I ACTUALLY talk to are cool, normal human beings with lives.

That is all :)

I don’t know what it is with girls.  We are SO different from guys!

Guys are used to pumping themselves up.  Their self esteem increases in direct relation to the number they’re bench pressing.  They feel good when they’re making money, when they’re working out, when they’re picking up chicks, and when they’re DOING things.  They have no problem promoting themselves and bragging or boasting about how much they’re benchpressing, how much they’re making, how many numbers they’re getting, how many chicks they’re doing and …you get the point.  It’s all very measurable.  Girls can have an amazing body and STILL be complaining about their fat arms or small boobs. 

When a guy gives another guy a compliment like: “your arms are getting huge”, the guy who is on the receiving end of the compliment accepts it matter of factly.  He does NOT do what girls do and reject the compliment “my arms are nice whatt noo no look at this it’s so jigglyyyy *shake shake shake*”. 

Why is it that girls have such a hard time accepting compliments?  Not only is it stupid to point out your flaws if you really believe they are flaws, it’s detrimental to your self worth and esteem.  TAKE THE COMPLIMENT – ESPECIALLY, and I cannot stress this enough ESPECIALLY if a guy is giving it to you.  Don’t let it get to your head, but just thank him and accept it.  The more you point out your flaws the more he’ll end up believing you!  It will slowly sink into his head and then he might be like ya that’s right, your friend’s ass IS nicer than yours, or ya you’re right your hair really is messed up.  It’s true.  Trust me.

Sometimes you feel… Does anyone even know what you’re talking about?  Does anyone bother to read between the lines?  Does anyone understand you?  Is anyone out there?  Do they feel the same way as you?  Do they know where you’re coming from?  Are you talking to yourself?  Does everyone else just think you’re a freaking weirdo?

Sometimes you ask yourself those things.  I do all the time.  I think the biggest thing for people is to be understood.  You want someone to know who you really are.  You want someone to know how you feel.  You want to be understood.  There are a few people in my life who I think do understand me.  For some reason, I think I’m a pretty weird person and sometimes I wish I was normal.  I guess everyone is weird in their own way though.  For me it’s just that sometimes I wish I didn’t have the desire to do all the things that I want to do.

I wish I could be content being mediocre.

So she finally got her man.  She had his picture in her room before she even met him, she went on the same Chile trip to the town William went to some time apart from his trip (I bet you she probably just heard that he was going and signed herself up then got screwed over because she didn’t end up on the same trip as him)…she finally met him, became friends, got semi naked in a fashion show while she was currently dating someone

and bam.  She got her Prince.  There you go girls… 1.) Get naked 2.)Break up with guy who was keeping the seat warm and 3.) Get your Prince!  Supposedly guys are into what they can’t have and this situation was no exception from the supposed rule.  Kate was “the friend (off limits) who had a boyfriend (totally off limits).  Totally off limits = Totally desirable to a man.  Agree?  Disagree?  I guess it was fate.

Who IS THE REAL KATE ?  I don’t hate her, this by no means is an I H8 K8 post, I think I like her - it's just that I don’t KNOW HER.  She hasn’t committed herself to anything (other than being girlfriend numero uno) or shown her personality and she’s been in the public eye for years now!  How horrible is that that she’s been in the public eye for so long, yet we can’t really tell what she’s like?

She hasn’t had a proper job since 2007, she’s obviously a smart girl having gotten a university degree from a top notch school and yet it seems that other than marrying her love (I don’t doubt that she’s in love with him and I truly think they make a great pair and look happy) she has no ambition.  What has she DONE in the past few years?  Attend a few weddings?  Go to etiquette classes?  I mean, she’s 29 years old for goodness sakes and I guess I’m just irritated with the fact that other than being photographed on yachts, exiting from clubs or being a style icon she hasn’t really done anything.  Apparently much of England feels the same way: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1048599/And-DO-Queen-wants-Kate-Middleton-charity-job-counter-claims-workshy.html

She has a lot of work to do because the people were so in love with Diana and Kate has big shoes to fill.  I think most people will warm up to her now that she’s finally (almost – still a couple hours to go) getting hitched and people like to see a girl finally get her man, but I mean, what is she going to do now after marriage?  Sit at home and wait around while her husband goes to work?  (They’re going to be living alone in a regular house fyi.)  Is she going to get a job?  Is she going to do charity work and risk being compared to Diana the People’s Princess?  Kate didn’t seem to have much of a social conscience before!  People inevitably draw comparisons between her and Princess Diana, and while Princess Diana seemed to genuinely care for people I just don’t get that same feeling from Kate.  If she did all of a sudden go to Africa to work with Aid’s patients or something I would just scoff and say she’s trying to win the public’s favor. 

Or maybe I’ve just become a cynic.  Very possible.

In the 80’s there was Madonna, in the 90’s there was Princess Diana, 2000’s had Britney and from 2011 onwards, Kate is the icon.  Girls have someone to look up to and while I like that she’s always been a fresh faced good girl, I hope that she will further live up to the media attention and establish an actual identity for herself with an actual focus in life other than her man.  Well… I’m off, I have a wedding to attend!  Torra!