C'est La Vie

Is dying slowly.  

Remember that Britney spears song.. "If there's nothing missing in my life than why do these tears come at night".. ?

Oh boo hoo poor female so hungry for love that she’s desperately chasing after people and being too clingy and the innocent little males who need a perfect woman who isn’t clingy and who fall for her maneater chasing ways are heartbroken when she sings about them after.  EFF YOU WORLD.  I’m so sick of the world depicting women in this manner!

Lately I’ve felt really bad about the whole Taylor Swift thing.  Not because of the usual reasons that people feel bad for her – the string of broken relationships, the poor little rich girl who can’t find someone to love her thing – I don’t care about all that.  What I do feel bad about is that people feel that they can make fun of a woman for essentially having more than one “boyfriend” a year and then singing about it.  Let me just get this straight… people are making fun of Taylor because she' dates amazingly good looking and famous men, she is minting money off of singing about them, and she’s a hot, young blonde with oodles of talent?  Sorry um, did I miss the memo?  I fail to understand why no one is saluting or applauding the girl and are instead making her the butt of jokes!

It’s all because we live in this misogynistic world where women are hated and people have such extreme double standards.  She hasn’t killed anyone, she’s beautiful and has access to places I couldn’t dream of being, why the EFF wouldn’t she be dating around?  I’m not saying that she’s a completely flawless and sane human being; buying houses by your summer fling’s home and suddenly dressing like you’re Jackie Kennedy was a tad bit unnerving even for me, so yes she’s made some poor choices, but to me that is completely irrelevant to the fact that people are not smart enough to see the other side of things or to see that they’re even BEING misogynistic.  I have a problem with people judging other people, especially other women WHILE holding men who do the EXACT same thing in high regard.

Here’s my case for Taylor Swift:

1.) She’s making money, and people like her songs.  She’s a REAL girl who has relationships and her songs actually reflect her life.  Oh but maybe she should be singing about the streets she never grew up on and the jail cells she’s never been in, or how chains and whips excite her because THAT’S cool!  SHE’S A FREAKIN SINGER – HER SONGS SHOULD REFLECT HER LIFE – She’s possibly one of the FEW people who in their actual singing career are being honest while allowing other people to relate to it.  No lie her songs are pretty catchy!  One thing I’ve learnt in life DON’T MESS WIT PPL’S MONEY – if singing about her boyfriends has made her get to where she is, why are people hating?  What do you expect her to do instead like are you going to pay her bills?  You just don’t dog on someone’s career choices when they’re actually successful at what they’re doing because that makes you El Stupido.

2.) If you’re going to date her, you already know what you’re getting into so don’t complain when things don’t work out and you suddenly hear a song about you.  I mean, hello?

3.) Choosing to sing about your view on your own relationships is hardly a crime and the people who are making fun of her (example Amy Poehler, Tina Fey, late night show comedians, Chelsea Handler etc) are people who have made their careers off of making fun of other people so I hardly think that they should be ones to judge.  That makes no sense to me “Hi I make fun of other people for a living but the fact that you sing about your relationships and made your career off of that is DISGUSTING YOU SLUT”.  Right..

4.) In a survey on hollywoodlife.com 67% of people who participated in the online poll said that they LIKED when Taylor sang about her relationships.  She’s an artist/singer/star… she has to give the people what they wanttt goddamit!  Civic duty and responsibility and all that jazz! 

I don’t see anything wrong with what she’s doing.  She dates people, the world is interested, she sings about them, she banks millions off of it, she get’s interviews because people care and she’s “relevant”… keep doin what you’re doin sistah!  Hashtag mad props.

Sup people’s!!!!  Ok SO – I CAN’T BELIEVE I’M FINALLY WRITING!  I just felt it today I felt this ZING like this is a moment that I def have to write about so HERE I AM.  It’s an Oprah kinda blog post like if today was a day on the Oprah show you’d probably skip it if all you care about is celebrity interviews cuz it’s one of those spiritual Oprah show days so skip it if you’re a soul less horrible person who doesn’t care about human emotion (see what I just did there haha suckaa now you gota read it!).

Let’s roll.

Background story:

Today I felt really weird as soon as I woke up, I didn’t even recognize what emotion it was it just felt weird in my windpipes or something.  I realized I was feeling sad as I blow-dried my hair because I suddenly (to my shock) burst out crying.  I didn’t really know why but whatever it’s not a big deal.  So I stopped went on my way, went to the building where I work and kinda started crying again!  At this point I’m like dayum Sharin get yo ish togetha!  It was really weird because nothing had happened specifically I guess it was just subconscious emotion or something but I felt down it just wasn’t a fantabulous day – UNTILLLLLLLLLLL I went to the bathroom to wash my hands :D

So I’m chillin out maxin relaxin washing my hands scrubbin away feelin blue and I look up into the miror to see this CUTE LITTLE BABY BOY in his pram kickin his little feet with his head turned all the way to the left lookin at me in the mirror smiling!  I swear all my sadness - that weird windpipe heavy in the chest feeling EVERYTHING just washed away like I was cleansed by that little angel’s smile.  I walked out of that bathroom on a whole other level and I was just like “dayum what is wrong with you woman like who do you think you are?  Who the heck gave you the right to be sad like do you see where you are?  You are on this freaking beautiful amazing Earth living the LIFE right now just truly blessed and you’re going to cry or feel blue and be sad over what?  EFF you Sharin lighten up – stop and smell the effing roses and smile cause you’re ALIVEEEEE homie!!!!!!”  (truly that’s the convo I had with myself) 

Point of my story:

Babies and animals are dope.  Get out of your own head.  Stop and smell the roses so to speak… smile at a baby… touch a flower… touch your grandparent’s hand… smell a baby’s breath… marvel at the world.  It’s shiny and clean and filled with oxygen just for you!

I love it I love the world, I love everything about it and I’m so glad to be here.  People talk about feeling blessed and it sounds so corny but I feel it inside I feel so thankful to be here.  Not everyone is here with me and I still am and people I love are still here and I’m so happy and thankful to God to grace me with another day.  I sound like one of those spiritual people on tv I know I sound weird but this is what I feel.

Babies and animals I honestly believe are like.. angels.. they’re God, they’re everything true and beautiful and divine on this Earth.  When I walked out of that bathroom I honestly felt like God just smiled at me and gently reminded me that I am lucky.  I truly felt a spiritual presence.  I felt like an idiot too I felt like the world’s biggest buffoon that a BABY had to take time out of it’s day and go out of it’s way to smile at ME.  I’M the one who’s supposed to be smiling at the baby!  How wrapped up in my own head and space was I that I first of all didn’t even notice a cute baby in it’s pram and secondly didn’t even see him smile at me until I looked into the mirror? 

I just love babies so much, thank goodness they exist because they teach us so much about life.

So THANK you miracle little baby in it’s pram for making my day so wonderful, you’ll never know what it meant to me but your smile saved me.

I’m a big believer in thinking positive and that we can all achieve anything that we set our minds to.  I believe that our minds have powers that are beyond our comprehension.  I believe that we inadvertently or for those who have discovered “the secret” as it’s often called (the power of positive thinking) purposefully shape our own destinies.

I think I was always a positive person and that I always kind of had this sense that I could “make” things happen.  A lot of my positive thinking was just visualizing, visualizing my life in my head – aka day dreaming.  I would very distinctly imagine my future.  On the first day my best friend and I hung out we wrote down and planned out our future and I’d say quite a lot of it came true or what we had thought about and wanted when we were younger came true although of course as we grew older we always wanted more and more. I also wrote a lot so besides day dreaming I would write about my life and what I wanted and believed would happen.  I would sometimes write in a future tense and act as if I was already a famous journalist or hot shot what have you.

Then there came a time when I wasn’t so positive.  I was so immersed in sadness and negative thinking that I often couldn’t breathe.  I’d throw up randomly (not knowing why (at the time)), I was not able to sleep well, I would wander the streets, I was pretty much constantly crying – at work, on the bus, on the skytrain, waiting for the bus, walking, in my room, in the bathroom, when watching a movie (you get the point) or hyperventilating to the point where I thought I needed to call 911.  I remember an episode where I was in my room and suddenly couldn’t breathe and thus far I had tried hiding it from my family but they found out this time and suddenly EVERYONE in my family was in front of me (including my dad, omgah poor guy), freaked out and scared and trying to help me.  It was a surreal moment and my sister told me that my lips or tongue started turning purple.  The power of positive thinking helped me.

After watching The Secret and meeting people in my life who were positive and really changing their mindset consciously I too changed my mindset.  I believe that if you clearly visualize yourself in the image that you want to be (a successful lawyer for example) and you FEEL that image, you feel the happiness, the power etc you will gravitate towards that and the powers of the universe will conspire to get you where you want to be.  It’s a very, very conscious effort.  It’s not easy to do this and you’ll find yourself slipping and thinking “one day” or thinking negatively.  You can’t imagine that you will be something “one day” you have to feel it NOW or you will forever be that person “one day”.   Create a vision board where you showcase things in a present tense.  “Your car” should not be the car you have now but the car you want and the more you look at that board and believe that that life is yours, the better for you.   I stopped dwelling on anything negative, I used to get so upset at little things.  I used to call up a friend and vent and moan about things and now I literally don’t tell anyone anything.  I may feel bad about something, write it on a piece of paper and rip it up and then I never think about that again.  I only allow myself to be upset for a few minutes and then I’m like ok .. time to move on.  It’s ok to rant and vent every so often as long as it’s not something you’re doing all the time and it’s not affecting your mental health.

It’s not easy being positive and lately I’ve been feeling that the future I once saw so clearly in my head has slipped and it’s getting more and more difficult to imagine that I will actually do what I said I would - so this post is about me trying to get back to the power of positive thinking and saying that I will once again make time for ME, for being positive, thinking happy thoughts, writing powerful quotes and speeches to myself to motivate me and working on my future as if it’s a reality.  I hope you will do the same and please do share with me if you try to think positive – what you do to stay positive – if you’ve slipped on this.  I READ ALLLLL OF YOUR COMMENTS via twitter/facebook and on this blog itself!!!!!!!!!!!  Sometimes your comments are just awesomeness so I just post it and don’t reply because there’s nothing to say cuz you’re right!!  But I do read them all!

I think I’ll write another post later on how to actually feel better and be more positive.  So watch out for that :D

**Side note** You can’t just sit there and think that thinking positive alone will change your life, it is meant to be a catalyst for positive ACTION. 

Now get out there and KICK SOME BUTT PEOPLES!! :D :D

Speaks for itself doesn't it.