C'est La Vie

Thought I’d take a couple of quizzes on the internet since it’s the new year.  You might find this boring but I write for me so I can’t really apologize to you.  Happy New Year everyone!
1. Why not me?

I have no idea what this question is asking.  Why not me?… to do what?

2. Am I nice?

I think I am.  I’m not naturally as nice as some people because I’m kind of sarcastic but I’m not fake when I’m being nice to someone.. if I’m being nice to you I mean it.

3. Am I doing what I really want to do?

Definitely not.

4. What am I grateful for?

My family.

5. What’s missing in my life?

Love and freedom.

6. Am I honest?

No.  I’m honest in the sense that I don’t lie to people (other than parents…they don’t count all kids lie to parents eventually), but I’m not honest about how I feel and I don’t always tell everything about how I’m feeling to people (sounds funny coming from someone who blogs about everything and anything but there you go I’m a walking oxymoron).  I do what’s best for me, or I try to at all times so if it’s in my best interests to not tell you that I think you’re a horrible person, or the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to me than I won’t.  If that’s lying then so be it.  There are a handful of people in this world who I will never lie to and tell too much to!

7. Do I listen to others?

Not really.  I don’t listen to what other people think I should do or how I should behave, I do whatever I think is right, and I guess this is why I am always getting in trouble in my family lol.  It might technically be the “wrong” thing to do but if I will live without regretting it, even if it’s the “wrong” thing, then for me it was the right thing to do.  Does that make sense?  For example, if I was lactose intolerant maybe it wouldn’t be correct for me to have an entire bucket of ice cream, but I would rather eat the bucket of ice cream because I wanted to than wake up the next day wondering what flavour it was. 

8. Do I work hard?

No

9. Do I help others?

Not enough.

10. What do I need to change about myself?

Number 9.  I should dedicate more time to helping other people.  My family as well as other citizens of the Earth :)

11. Have I hurt others?

Yes.  A lot…all the time.

12. Do I complain?

All the time.  I’m ashamed to say I’m a whiny person haha but in certain situations I don’t complain.  I will always complain if I feel cold, otherwise I’d say I’m pretty easy going.  I don’t complain about food when I’m travelling or accommodations.

13. What’s next for me?

Being happy and having fun are the only two things on my list of things to do.  These are the only goals of my life, beyond this I have no idea and no plans.

14. Do I have fun?

How funny that this was the next question.  Yes!  As depressing as I can get sometimes I always have fun every single day.  (As long as I have a book or a good laugh life is pretty awesome so I’m pretty easy to please…at the present time I’d like to thank my bff’s Youtube and Kobo).

15. Have I seized opportunities?

Sometimes I am not prepared for the opportunities that arise and that’s horrible because luck is 90 percent preparation and 10 percent chance! However, what I have the capability to do, I do seize..yes.  Example: I once went downtown with my sister and friend to meet someone in the afternoon and suddenly an opportunity arose to be a part of something.  I said yes no questions asked… I stayed up all night in downtown Vancouver outside in the cold , rainy weather without an umbrella or proper clothes, alone and not knowing a single person there or how I was going to get home and went to work the next morning at 7am straight just so I could take part.

16. Do I care about others?

Too much.

17. Do I spend enough time with my family?

You can never spend enough time with your family.  Never.  Everyone will realize this at one point or another.

18. Am I open-minded?

Yes

19. Have I seen enough of the world?

Same as #17, you can never see enough of the world.

20. Do I judge others?

Oh I love this question.  I never judge other people I firmly believe their choices and decisions are between them and God.  Unless they are a murderer or other such condemned individual.

21. Do I take risks?

Yes.

22. What is my purpose?

To make other people smile?  To hopefully raise good children.

23. What is my biggest fear?

Being alone.

24. How can I conquer that fear?

I think you can’t.  If anyone knows how to please let me know.

25. Do I thank people enough?

Blah blah blahhhh I’m getting bored and so are you I’m sure… lets skip this one.

26. Am I successful?

Not yet

27. What am I ashamed of?

I won’t tell it’s personal and it involves someone else.

28. Do I annoy others?

Ask my sisters and my best friends haha.

29. What are my dreams?

To do what I like to do for the rest of my life.

30. Am I positive?

I’M SKIPPING QUESTIONS I DON’T LIKE

33. Does everything happen for a reason?

Yes, always.  I believe in fate and destiny and there is always something to be learnt from things that happen in this world.

34. What can I do to change the world?

Be the best me that I can be.

42. Do I care what others think about me?

Not enough to stop being myself.

50. What was the toughest time in my life?

It started on November 15th 2009 and hasn’t ended yet.  I’ll let you know when it does…

51. What was the easiest time in my life?

It started on Feb 26th or 27th 2007. 

53. What was the craziest thing I did?

Fall in love.

54. What is the craziest thing I want to do?

Fall in love again.

55. Do I procrastinate?

I’ll answer this question laterrrrr.

56. What is my greatest regret?

Not calling to speak to my grandparents enough.

57. What has had the greatest impact on my life?

Love.

58. Who has had the greatest impact on my life?

My mother and her mother.

59. Do I stand up for myself?

To the death.

61. Do I hold grudges?

Only one.

63. Do I listen to my heart?

Too much!?

66. Do I constantly dwell on the past?

If you live in the past isn’t it the present?

67. Do I let other people’s negativity affect me?

Yes.  I care too much about people.

68. Do I forgive myself?

Yes always.

69. When I help someone do I think “What’s in it for me”?

I can thankfully say that thought never crosses my mind.

70. Am I aware that someone always has it worse than me?

Yes, unfortunately I’m kind of a morbid person.

OK THAT WAS SO NOT A FUN QUIZ.  HOPEFULLY THIS NEXT ONE IS FUNNER.


************SECOND QUIZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!**************

Is there anybody you just wish would fall off the planet? – NO ONLY BECAUSE THAT WOULD PROBABLY HURT HER FAMILY AND THAT WOULDN’T BE VERY NICE OF ME.
How do you flush the toilet in public?  WITH MY FOOT
Do you wear your seatbelt in the car?  YES ALWAYS
Do you have a crush on someone?  YES, BEN AFFLECK FROM THE TOWN.  UNFORTUNATELY THERE IS NO OTHER CRUSH WORTHY DUDE IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW.  MUST RECTIFY THIS IMMEDIATELY!
Name one thing you worry about running out of. EYELASHES AND HAIR
What famous person do you (or other people) think you resemble? I’VE ACTUALLY GOTTEN LAUREN CONRAD FROM ENOUGH RANDOM PEOPLE TO OFFICIALLY SAY ITS HER.
What is your favorite pizza topping? PEPPERONI
Do you crack your knuckles? NO IT GIVES YOU ARTHRITIS
What song do you hate the most?  99 BOTTLES OF BEER
Did just mentioning that song make it get stuck in your head?  YOU ARE SO MEAN!
What are your super powers?  I CAN READ PEOPLE’S MINDS AND I CAN MOVE MY PINKY TOE ON TOP OF MY OTHER TOE WITHOUT USING MY HANDS.
Peppermint or spearmint?  SPEARMINT
Where are your car keys?  WHERE IS MY CAR IS THE BETTER QUESTION
Whose answers to this questionnaire do you want to hear?  YOURS!  FEEL FREE TO COPY PASTE AND WRITE IN MY COMMENT.
What's your most annoying habit?  CALLING PEOPLE OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN IF THEY DON’T PICK UP AND I THINK THEY’RE ASLEEP OR LOST OR IGNORING ME.  HAHA.
Where did you last go on vacation?  LONG BEACH CALIFORNIA
What is your best physical feature?  MY BIG…CHEEKS.
What CD is closest to you right now?  IT’S ACTUALLY A DVD OF THE MOVIE “BREAK KE BAAD” WHICH I SHALL BE WATCHING AFTER THIS
What 3 things can always be found in your refrigerator?  MILK, EGGS AND BEER
What superstition do you believe/practice?  NOT WHISTLING AT NIGHT.  BUT THEN AGAIN I DON’T REALLY KNOW HOW TO WHISTLE SO IT’S KIND OF AN EASY ONE TO FOLLOW.
What color are your bed sheets?  BLACK AND WHITE PRINT
Would you rather be a fish or a bird?  A BIRD BECAUSE I CAN STILL BE PART OF THIS WORLD.  BEING A FISH WOULD BE COOL BUT REALLY SCARY.
Do you talk on your cell phone when you drive?  HANDS FREE
What are your favorite sayings?  WHERE THERE’S A WILL THERE’S A WAY
What song(s) do you sing most often in the shower?  I CAN’T SING AND WON’T TRY.
If you could go back or forward in time,where would you go?  TO MARCH OR APRIL 2007 AND TO DEC 2000.
If you could kiss anyone who would it be?  IF GOD ASKED ME THIS QUESTION I WOULD SAY: “THE LOVE OF MY LIFE” AND WAIT ANXIOUSLY TO SEE WHO POPS UP.
What do you do when no one is watching?  BLOG
If they made a movie about your life, what actor/actress would be you?  PREITY ZINTA.
Would you rather die in a blaze of glory or peacefully in your sleep?  I WOULD RATHER DIE IN MY SLEEP BUT BEING A SIKH I WOULD BE HONOURED TO DIE FIGHTING FOR WHAT I BELIEVE IN.
Coffee or Tea  GREEN TEA.
Have you ever been in love?  YES
Do you talk to yourself?  I THINK RIGHT NOW COUNTS.

I really love her so much, and I respect and admire her.  She has quiet strength, and she is undoubtedly the purest, kindest, most good hearted person I know.  She’s simple, she’s pure, she’s patient, loving, caring, and so wise.  Oh and she’s SO CUTE!
As a child and just as a person in general, I’ve always liked and enjoyed hanging out with males (my cousin bro’s in law or my male cousins, nephews, friends), although it’s always my female crew that I have deep conversations with.  It was the same with my Grandfather… he had such a huge personality.. huge (!!) and for me growing up he always overshadowed my love for my grandma (I call her Manji, she is my mother’s mom) and I always enjoyed his attention more.  It’s one of those situations where kids jump for joy when their Dad comes home or enjoys their days out with their fathers because… their mom is always there.  That’s how it was with my Grandmother.. I know she’s always there and so for me growing up she was kind of the second one in their relationship.. she was the one I would go to if I got hurt or sick, but it was my Grandfather that I would sit beside to listen to his stories and hear his voice.
When my Grandfather passed away (wait – side note – my dad’s parents: I never met my grandfather and my grandmother passed away when I was five years old and I loved her v. much as well), I regretted not calling him enough, not spending time with him enough, and till this day I’m not over his death and wish that I could have properly said goodbye to him.  Now that he’s gone, my Grandmother is the only grandparent I have left in this world.  I’ve gotten to know HER more, and paid more attention to her.  I’m not saying I ignored her before or that I didn’t love her before…nothing like that at all… I just loved her like any kid loves her mom.. in the taken for granted kind of way.
I’ve never sent her flowers (but I will change that this coming year!!!!!), I only recently bought her the first present I’ve ever bought her (a shawl!) (to be fair I was a kid most of the time and since 2000 I’ve only seen her…this year – 2009 because I went to Singapore twice this year!).
She was born in India but moved to Singapore (which was known as Malaysia at the time – it was before it’s independence) when she was around 2-3 years old.  She married my Grandfather and had 6 kids; two boys and four girls (one of my aunts is missing in the picture below).  She now has 11 grandchildren and I am her fourth oldest grandchild.

Bapuji (my grandfather) was a pretty strict, tough guy when he was younger although by the time I rolled along he was chilled out and jolly for the most part but I could still see and hear the fierceness.  He had that quality about him.  Manji was a sharp contrast.  I heard she could be fairly strict herself, but to me she was always the water to his fire..essential, yet not loud and crackling.  Manji taught her children (well my mom – the oldest child for sure) how to speak English (they spoke Punjabi when they were little and did go to English speaking schools when they were older).  The best part is?  My grandma didn’t even know English!!!  My mom used to think that my grandma knew English but didn’t realize that actually my grandmother would get her English speaking neighbour to teach her the words in an English book and then my grandma would memorize it and teach it to her kids.  My mom guys never knew that Grandma actually didn’t know how to read it herself.  In the end that is how my Grandmother learnt an entire language, through memorization and being able to pick it up fast.  That’s pretty cool.
Manji I don’t think has ever used makeup, maybe on her wedding day but there are no photos of the event, she’s never used a hair product before (her black hair at age 70 something is all natural!) and so I always feel super weird when I’m all glossed out and flat ironed in front of her especially because for most of my life that she saw I was makeup less with a curly mop of hair, or with it in a braid.  She prefers to keep things simple and that’s why she is so inspiring to me.  She loves God, she loves her family, she doesn’t gossip or trouble anyone… she’s just amazing. 
When I went back to Singapore she told me that I have to wake up early and make my bed and not talk back to my parents lol :) I wish she stayed here in Canada and then I could get told what to do from her all the time!  As it is I’m totally jealous of my newest cousin because he gets to live with her!  So not fair, I want Manji to sing me songs (He’s 6months old)!.
Alright that’s all for now… if you take anything away from this.. talk to your loved ones, get to know your elders, and spend time with them!  My only grandparent lives across the world from me and I don’t get to see her very often.  Listen to them, listen to their stories, write them down if you get a chance!  There’s a reason why they tell you what they do, they’ve been through a lot and you should appreciate what you have.
******* ADDED NOVEMBER 26TH 2010******
Hey everyone who is reading this.  On November 18th 2009 I found out my grandmother had lung cancer.  She has never smoked a cigarette (duh if you read the blog you should know this but just had to mention it) or anything like that, these things just happen I guess.  She is still bravely battling it and all we can ask for at this point is to pray for her to not feel any pain and to be with family in her times of need.  I would love to be with her more than anything at this time and hope I can make it out there...  Thank you for all who read this, it makes me feel nice.  I’m sorry for my crap writing in the blog I’m sure there are tons of grammatical errors…I just felt like I needed to confess that in case people think I’m some awesome person, I’m not (just in case you thought that… now you’re sitting there thinking psh why does this girl think anyone would think that?!).  I could have shown my love for her more and I haven’t so yeah I’m not like some amazing grandaughter.