C'est La Vie

Like every other girl out there, I’m a little obsessed with this song.  However, I have no clue why other girls are so in love with it.  Do they relate to it?  Do they just like the beat?  Do they like to picture themselves as the tragic heroine?  I like this song, I relate to it, but I think it popularizes domestic violence.
I first heard this song on the Hills and thought it had a good beat.  I liked Rihanna’s part a lot initially but the more I listen to it the more I feel that Eminem definitely steals the show, plus it has enough swearing in it to soothe my anger problems while I’m driving and the song is on blast with the wind blowing in my hair.  Mucho enjoyment.
The phrase Rihanna sings haunted me... love the way you lie..  How can you love the way someone lies?  Then it hit me, it’s completely true.  It might sound weird but essentially, people lie because they care about you and because they don’t want to hurt you!  Does the truth really benefit you?  It might, it might not.  Knowing the truth sometimes doesn’t give you any more power than just accepting circumstances without knowing the reasons behind it and being able to continue regardless.  Does it matter how Tutankhamen died?  In the end, he’s dead and that’s all there really is to it.  (Ok, that was kind of random but you know what I mean!).   Sometimes things happen and you just have to deal with it.  Maybe one day you will find out the truth, but more often than not I feel that sometimes the truth is better left unknown.  People who lie to you are lying because they are not strong enough to speak the truth, but in the end, they do not wish to hurt you.  People who are being lied to often sense that they’re being lied to deep down but because they’re afraid to face the truth, they eat the lies. Being lied to is like hoping; you hope that what they say is true or could be and that’s why people love it when they are lied to, deep down.  Most people love to live a lie and deny the truth.  Hey, I’m not saying those are healthy people or relationships by any means but as long as people are happy, that’s all that really matters.  So, lets just say, I get what Rihanna means when she says “I love the way you lie”.
What I HATE about this song however, is that I feel that it glamorizes and popularizes domestic violence, rather than just bringing awareness to this serious issue.  I feel that little kids who watch Megan Fox and whoever that dude is (?) thrash it out will get the impression that this is a normal thing for grownups to do in grownup relationships.  It actually even looks SEXY and if I were a kid I’d probably expect it to happen to me at least once in my life in the future.  Contrasted to when I was growing up; I never expected anything like what happens in this music video to happen to me.  The only time I heard about domestic violence or people hitting each other was when I saw it happen in families with lower social and economic status on tv.  You knew it wasn’t something that would happen to YOU PERSONALLY!  I feel like people will look at this song and when violence happens to them, they will think that it’s normal, that it happens to normal people and they will sit there and accept it.  That is the problem.  This is not normal, you should not accept it, you should be shocked and horrified if this ever happened to you, and you should seek help.  It’s scary, and it’s serious.  What if on every show on tv there was domestic violence between the couples on the show?  What if Doug hit Carrie on the King of Queens every time she pissed him off, or the other way around… what if Ross and Rachel were always shown hitting each other and then kissing passionately on Friends?  Do you not think that this would become more of a norm for people?  Do you feel that more physical abuse would seep into relationships?  Or do you think that you would never do that, never hit a girl, never hit your man?  There is no grey area, you can’t say “hey I just threw something at her/him, I didn’t actually hit her/him”, if it is an act of violence, it is wrong.  All I’m saying is, that when a song like this with popular artists and glamorous a-list movie stars in the music video depict abuse, they don’t bring awareness to this social issue, they simply glamorize it and make it more of a cultural norm, and I am against that.  It was such a huge deal when MTV showed the teaser of Snooki getting punched on Jersey Shore (although they didn’t air it in the episode) because of this EXACT REASON.  POPULARIZING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.  ‘Tis a no no.  Let me know your thoughts on this issue :)

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