Why Nice Guys Finish Last
EVERY GUY is supposed to be nice because humans should be nice! Unfortunately most of the people you end up meeting or hearing about tend to be dirt bags and so when you finally do meet that one nice guy, you feel like you need to give him a shot just because he’s (apparently) nice. That my friends, is the beginning of the end! DON’T CAVE IN!
Girls have a tendency to get confused and say “but he’s so nice” and then agonize over why they don’t feel any connection. It has nothing to do with the fact that this person is nice, it’s just that you don’t connect with them! You’re not supposed to be with someone just because they’re SUPPOSEDLY nice.
WHY DO NICE GUYS FINISH LAST?!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1.) TOO PASSIVE = I think “nice guys” are just too passive. They very often don’t hit on a girl as much as a “bad boy” would? Theory of mine.
2.) NO GAME = constantly texting and being available, “hey we should meet, hey what are you up to, hey how was the exam you told me about once briefly three weeks ago that you were going to write today and I still remembered because I’m a creepy person with no life and I want to impress you with how nice I am?”. This is what I say in my head to people who do that: BUDDY RELAX! It’s not that a girl wants a guy to play games and not text her back; a girl wants a guy who has a life! You should really not be that available, it's a turn off (remember this all you clueless “nice guys” out there!).
3.) Picture above: straight up! A “nice” guy is really just a guy who wants to boink you and doesn’t have the balls or CONFIDENCE to say so. "NICE" GUYS DON’T HAVE CONFIDENCE. They don’t straight up ASK you to go on a DATE, instead they ask you out for coffee and/or pretend to be your friend first. They cover up the intentions from the get go, thereby usually confusing the girl who doesn't automatically view you in that light.
4.) Pushovers. "Nice" guys are known to be pushovers. If I cancelled on a “nice” guy last minute with a lame excuse they’d be totally ok with it. A bad boy would be like ok this chick’s a waste of time, screw her and move on. A “nice” guy would be all understanding and say “it’s ok next time”. There’s nothing WRONG with being nice and with being understanding, but every time you allow yourself to be a second class citizen, girls realize that hey this person is ok with this type of behaviour and treat you like a second class citizen. People don’t cancel on the Queen of England. They shouldn’t cancel on you either. If they do forget to call you back, or cancel on you, or whatever – screw em.
Girls have a tendency to get confused and say “but he’s so nice” and then agonize over why they don’t feel any connection. It has nothing to do with the fact that this person is nice, it’s just that you don’t connect with them! You’re not supposed to be with someone just because they’re SUPPOSEDLY nice.
WHY DO NICE GUYS FINISH LAST?!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1.) TOO PASSIVE = I think “nice guys” are just too passive. They very often don’t hit on a girl as much as a “bad boy” would? Theory of mine.
2.) NO GAME = constantly texting and being available, “hey we should meet, hey what are you up to, hey how was the exam you told me about once briefly three weeks ago that you were going to write today and I still remembered because I’m a creepy person with no life and I want to impress you with how nice I am?”. This is what I say in my head to people who do that: BUDDY RELAX! It’s not that a girl wants a guy to play games and not text her back; a girl wants a guy who has a life! You should really not be that available, it's a turn off (remember this all you clueless “nice guys” out there!).
3.) Picture above: straight up! A “nice” guy is really just a guy who wants to boink you and doesn’t have the balls or CONFIDENCE to say so. "NICE" GUYS DON’T HAVE CONFIDENCE. They don’t straight up ASK you to go on a DATE, instead they ask you out for coffee and/or pretend to be your friend first. They cover up the intentions from the get go, thereby usually confusing the girl who doesn't automatically view you in that light.
4.) Pushovers. "Nice" guys are known to be pushovers. If I cancelled on a “nice” guy last minute with a lame excuse they’d be totally ok with it. A bad boy would be like ok this chick’s a waste of time, screw her and move on. A “nice” guy would be all understanding and say “it’s ok next time”. There’s nothing WRONG with being nice and with being understanding, but every time you allow yourself to be a second class citizen, girls realize that hey this person is ok with this type of behaviour and treat you like a second class citizen. People don’t cancel on the Queen of England. They shouldn’t cancel on you either. If they do forget to call you back, or cancel on you, or whatever – screw em.
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ReplyDeleteKinda controversial. It's like I guess... I mean nice guys aren't like that really. They're just, I don't know what should I say? If you think about it if you go with bad boys they tend to break up with you faster and more often than a nice guy. If a ncie guy is just really into you and going after you that isn't that a good thing? Won't you like a man that's going after you? You don't want a guy who'se like screw off, go away.
The only reason you have so called "bad guys" is because they were treated badly by a girl. It is sad but majority of male lives evolve around females. And when a girl treats a guy badly, he in return treats all women badly. As much as women love to blame the men, it is really their fault. Why not treat someone the way they deserve, not all guys want to touch ur boobies or have sex, once upon a time, all he really wanted to do was just talk to you.
ReplyDeleteKandyman your rep is going to be ruined if everyone sees this comment of yours! lol I'm jk! Your comment made me so sad... once upon a time eh. Yes.. once upon a time we all believed in love!
ReplyDeleteTo everyone else who msgd me on Facebook or texted or bbmd (gotta love you guys for your feedback!)... almost everything I write on here is tongue and cheek so please don't take me too seriously! ;)
I think you hit the nail on the head about "nice guys" but that doesn't mean you should date bad guys either. There's plenty of guys out there that have their shit together and know that to get an awesome girl, they need to be awesome themselves. It's the guys that want a good girl but don't want to be good themselves that are the problem.
ReplyDeleteso funny sharin,but u cn also divert the innocent or good guys to bad one.lol,picture is soo cool
ReplyDeleteif a girl whats to get bonded and treated mean she should stick to a bad guy. clearly thats what you think is best, good know ill see you around.
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ReplyDeleteans u want to believe in all the hindi movie magic yet u cant trust any guy who might be nice to u
stick to bad boys they seem to treat u how u want
all the "nice guys" you have encountered have all been bad boys in disguise, honey.
ReplyDeleteexcept those guys know how to play a sweeter game.
the difference between a smart girl and a silly girl is one can tell the difference.
scratch a lil deeper than a coffee date and you'll see you've been a silly girl. as you have been played before, so let say you smarten up.
I love the all your blogs :)
ReplyDeleteI love all your blogs*
ReplyDeleteWhoa people relax! lol FIRSTLY THANK you for reading and for commenting. Please do keep in mind a lot of what I write is tongue in cheek, I can't keep throwing out disclaimers after every sentence. I put "nice guys" and "bad boys" in quotations for a reason. Sometimes the so called "nice guys" aren't really all that nice and the "bad boys" can have hearts of gold - that was something I was trying to get across which is why the quotations around nice guys and bad boys. You should date someone you are interested in and attracted to, I like to believe that every human being is nice at their core. Have a nice day :)
ReplyDeleteAs I read this, I couldn't help but be reminded of the ladder theory for some reason. If you haven't heard of it, here it is:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.laddertheory.com/
Be sure to read it all the way to the end.
Thanks soo much for posting the link to the Ladder Theory! Honestly all men and women need to read that :| lol.
ReplyDeletehehe so young.
ReplyDeletewhat bad guy has a heart of gold? your cocaine dealer in south surrey? the guy screwn u around?
ballzy is different. Nice guys with balls do exist honey.
Just some tongue n cheek
hehe my friend told me to read this blog the other day. very interesting to say the least shareen. Heres my take!
ReplyDeleteIve dated my fair share of guys (dont judge people). the point is that i used to think bad guys were so hot when i was younger but now,ive realized that it wasnt the 'bad guy' that i loved. I think i luvd the confidence not the asshole factor.
Now i realized i like happy guys (with lives).I luv guys who dont hold back and say whatever is on their mind. Its just so attractive to me to see masculine guys in appearance and confident attitude (that dont shave their body), smiles, great optimistic outlook on life. maybe they are jerks to those who wrong them, but i can curl up like a ball in his arms.
Perhaps a learned bad dude? You can always tell when a guy was a bad dude bc he holds on to his 'balls' even if he is presently good. this blog is awesome that it made me reflect on my own taste :):)
ps: i married the guy i described.
I like submissive, unassertive sleepy guys. then i can stick it 2 them. whys this post so popular.hello
ReplyDeleteA learned bad dude. I like that! Blessings for your continued happiness in your marriage :). Thanks everyone for reading and commenting.
ReplyDeleteI just saw this post on the recent activity side post and
ReplyDeleteomggg, the learned bad dude is freaking awesome!! i dated a guy who dated my friend well lets say acquaintance bc i wudnt do that to a real friend.(it was worth it!!) anyways wat u heard from her mouth was complete filth (girls tend to be quite bitter regardless of truth). i think he just grew up by my time bc hes xactly like the 'learned bad dude' u described above. scrappy rebellion who noly resort there if need arises. charming, happy, always centre of attention, is nice and helps anyone who asks - except those who have f*kd with him, respected amongst friends,aggressive ;) silly at times but almost animated confidence with major backbone! i am also still dating him,tempers sometimes fly high but our outlooks bring us back. omgg writing this just made me miss him so much, i need to call him. Ciao !!
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open up your hearts ladies, the diamond in the rough is probably right in front of you. Skip the politics, loyalties to friends, people change, 5 yrs from now prolly wont even be talking to half them and to the girl who loves submissive guys --> BORINGGGGGGGGGG
AMEN to that girl dec 13 post.
ReplyDeletethose guys dont seem 2 wait round long if they sho interest and you dont. their self respect n their egos need comforting and someone else is quick to jump on it.
rebellion with a cause! smart! loyal!respect full to womans!confidence!zeal!funny! charm!
ReplyDeletedown wid coffee seeker nice man. He wants be in your panty but doe not know wat to do if give chance.he like a sad virgin girl inside
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Hey Sharin, I stumbled on this blog, do you have a Facebook page?
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