C'est La Vie

Everyone seems to be posting this video lately on Facebook and Twitter.. I definitely think that it has a huge message.  People these days would rather take 40 pictures so they can remember that night rather than actually living the night and having fun!

I am not a phone person.  This may come as a surprise to people who think I am a different person altogether, or it'll come as no surprise to the people that yell at me for not answering my calls or texting back.  More on that later.  

When do I use my phone?  I use my phone on my way to work because I'm on public transit, so I use it to either catch up with a friend or listen to music.  I don't get time to use my phone while I am at work because - I'm working !!!!!! - I do check it quickly before a break to see if there were any calls from VIPS (my family) when I have a bunch of notifications and need to clear my messages.  I don't often reply right away, or call someone back right away.  My break times are not to type away on my phone - it's to have a break!  I want to eat, chill, go for a walk, and de-stress, not cause more stress in my life by trying to reply to everyone who was bored and decided to shoot me a text or call me (people who probably don't really give AF about you or your life).

When I'm at home - and the rest of my family is awake (mornings or weekends) - my phone is lying on my bed in my room.  I have no use for it!  My close friends have my home phone number, if it's really necessary for them to reach me and I don't answer my cell phone they can call the house phone!  OR, they can come over!  I'm rarely home with my family because of everyone's varying work schedule, I really don't have time to be sitting on my phone, or sitting on the computer, or generally doing anything phone related and it amazes me that people get SO. PISSED. OFF. 

Like WHY do I have to call you back right away?  Do you need something urgently?  Are you my mother?  Are you the President of the United States?  What is it that you REALLY have to say?  I'm all for catching up, I speak to my close friends at least every other day, but just because you saw that I have read your message, or there are double check marks showing in the Whatsapp message, or my BBM says "read", or my Snapchat says "opened" does not mean that I have the time to reply to you!  If you were living life, you wouldn't have time either!

Most people now don't want to live their life, they want to broadcast it.  Doing something cool?  Snapchat it.  Doing something where you look super hot?  Instagram it.  Doing something where you saw someone famous?  Tweet it.  (reminds me of that Bop it game - Bop it, twist it, beat it, snap it lol)

Social media IS important, I communicate through snapchat with my friends and cousins from England and Singapore, I feel connected in their lives more so than ever before.  I Facetime and Google Hangouts with my family members, I GOT A JOB in social media!!!!!!  However, I think that people need to understand that there's a difference between being a SEEMINGLY public and social person who uses social media, and having social media and your friends and your phone run your life. 

I sleep around 3 or 4 am everyday.  If I'm ever consistently on my phone it's between 12am and 4am in the morning (which is when I get a lot of texts from my friends who see my tweets and posts and call me a vampire, and is also the time that I'm sitting here writing this).  This is the time that my family is asleep, it's "me" time.  Monday to Friday I sleep, wake up, hang out with family, go to work, come home and on the weekends I meet my close friends and hang out with my family.  I try very hard to reply to everyone who takes the time out of their day to reach out to me.  I appreciate it very much!  I'm just not glued to my phone.  I personally think that unless there was a text message or a voicemail or like 5 phone calls that showed me that there was some urgency required in responding, 1-2 business days is a perfectly reasonable amount of time to get back to someone.

1.) Don't be rude.  People did take time out of their day to reach out to you, make time to message them or call them back at some point (I believe in 24-48 hours depending on how important it is).

2.) Don't let your phone run your life.

I've been fortunate enough to have been in many situations that were soooo freakishly cool and amazing and random (well I think so anyway!) that I actually was not "allowed" or it wouldn't be correct to record/snapchat/broadcast it (just based on social situations or protocol).  Some of my best and most interesting days are when I wasn't able to talk about it (!)  and those days will forever be sacred to me.  I don't need to see a picture to remember where I have been that was so cool, or who I met, or what I ate, or what we talked about.  I remember it inside, and I love that no one will ever know!  It makes me feel like there is something about me, something people don't know about, something that if ever anyone were to find out they would be intrigued, something I can tell my grandchildren one day, something I can discuss late at night with the love of my life one day.  A woman always has to have a little bit of mystery to her ;)  

Just live people, live as much as you can in as little time as we have left.

Adieu!